Everyone, especially women, tells themselves they love someone because of a sexual commitment or a sexual fantasy but neglects the actual emotional attachment that ensures her partner feels the same way. Moreover, men fall into the same trap where they confuse the act of sex with a legitimate love connection followed by a lasting commitment. It’s easy to tell ourselves a lie when false responses shadow the attraction to someone. All is beautiful when you’re out on that date; have a nice dinner and several glasses of your favorite drink while luring yourself into a sexual fantasy. These obvious enticements symbolize continuous lies we tell ourselves selfishly, hoping to find the ‘one’ only to discover that our feelings aren’t matched.
As stimulating and rewarding as sex can be, the aftermath becomes the actual test of a relationship that will last, so it’s my professional opinion that love and sex for men have nothing to do with the other, and you must realize the difference. These are two different subjects that can explode right in front of your face and traumatize you forever. To avoid this, ask yourself what you want from this person. Can you accept this person for who they are and not what you want them to be? If sex is your ‘highlight real,’ take a deep breath, evaluate what’s happening, and if that evaluation doesn’t measure up, back up and back off while you can by safeguarding your integrity and well-being. Maintaining a sense of pride and respect for yourself should be your primary goal.
Overall, ‘sex deception’ is the silent intoxicant that drives the initial encounters people have as they become slaves to the idea of a perfect relationship and finding that ideal man based on their sexual appetite. Where these male/female encounters can last for months and even years, the genuine commitment to something permanent never happens because women don’t force their men to commit or tell the truth. Instead, women prefer that commitment by men be voluntary and unbiased, for women who don’t ask uncomfortable questions fall short of seeing the bigger picture to arrive at a better solution to a relationship that fails before it begins. Know that nursing new relationships is a chance, and if you’re willing to take the opportunity regardless of the outcome, at least the satisfaction can be calculated and void of unsolicited expectations created by one person. If sex is simply an act of temporary emotional bliss, that emotion will be short-lived. This short life span is due to the lack of commitment and substance between the two involved. As radical as a sexual encounter can be, one needs to identify a secure sexual identity to complement a mature outlook on human interaction. If there is a lack of moral obligation to one another, the fraudulent relationship will erode, with nothing left to protect the integrity of the individuals. In a world of ‘moral ineptness,’ trying to figure that out should occur before a sexual relationship enters the sanctuary of a bedroom. Know what you want! Know who you want and why, and live by your decision no matter the outcome.
This Article was Last Updated On: February 6, 2025