Character Evaluation

“You must be willing to examine and explore your dark side. It would be best if you acknowledged how bad you can be and how unloving you can behave. When you know how deep and dark your dark side is, it helps you stand a little taller in the light.” (Iyanla Vanzant)

In more precise terms, character flaws are fundamental, but few people admit they have a problem. Any self-examination can be a healthier way of life by understanding who you are in the process. There exist a dark side to all of us once we can humble ourselves to its destructive hold on our lives. This dark side can be frightening because it makes you vulnerable to your criticism. I would rather be honest with myself to fix these character traits instead of someone else pointing those traits out to me. This dark side cuts you off from reality as you construct this personal facade attempting to fool others. To deceive someone else is easy, but you only have yourself to blame when your life encounters become worse at the end of the day.

So, the question remains; where do I start? The answer is to start from the beginning and gradually work forward to your present state of being. If your past reflects repeated mistakes, bad decisions, or unwarranted expectations, the change you don’t see is the crucial oversight. The crippling emotional effect avoidance or denial has on the human psyche places you in a malignant state while this condition kills all things around you. This description becomes your falsehood deepening the wounds of despair and anxiety. This dark side dims the light you could receive, showing you the way back or through tough times. My breakthrough arrived once I was able to see and act on what I saw. If the vision of myself was skewed, finding out the reason became my mission.  To seek what you don’t understand is the beginning to fix what’s broken.

Recommended reading to help you through this awakening is a book I wrote entitled ‘Simply Common-Cents, the Discipline of Uncommon Reasoning.’ Available on Amazon.com.