Are you feeling lost, overwhelmed, abandoned, or disconnected? How about feeling unloved, empty, helpless, or trapped? If so, these traits could be a sign of dissociation. This association is linked to everything, and finding a remedy for this emotion is difficult. Dissociation is the emotional label that connects negative emotions that plague us with separation, isolation, and withdrawal. However, this set of emotions can draw what psychologists call ‘avoidance.’ When there is a diagnosis of avoidance, loving another or enjoying the social side of life could be another emotional equivalent that becomes convenient to remain your secret self. By remaining your secret self, you maintain control over your life. This control provides behavioral leverage to get those things you want and need.
Your emotions are highly complex to discern. Because emotions affect us all, determining what applies to you is difficult. The patterns associated with any emotional design can ultimately separate the confusion and identify the behavior related to your emotions. To witness a discovery is to notice a possible change. If you see a new and better way to think, engage it or risk losing the opportunity. You are what you believe!
Another factor to consider when evaluating dissociation is the possibility of having dual personalities. As this trait becomes deeper, avoiding the more obvious aberrant behaviors become prevalent.
This Article was Last Updated On: January 31, 2024
I’ve been trying very hard recently to change how I think. Starting my gym journey was a huge positive change for me and helped figure out that to change my behavior I have to change my entire identity. So now I’ve added to this new identity that I’m someone who values physical activity to stay healthy despite not always loving the feeling. For awhile, I had to trick myself into enjoying my working out. I’m still struggling to integrate this strategy into my studies. I’d more than anything need to work on my study behavior so that I can handle the workload of a full time nursing program. But sometimes I feel myself disassociating to the point that I hate to even look at my load of schoolwork. Sometimes I feel like it’s too daunting of a task and I’ll fail anyway. I’m trying to find new ways to stay disciplined but it is difficult, especially when you know what you could potentially achieve but the days I plan out seldom play out accordingly. The unexpected of everyday life always throws me off and I return to feeling hopeless. For this new year, I want to strengthen my willpower and ability to see something through, even with setbacks. I’m so thankful I was able to get medicine to treat the ADHD that I’ve always suspected I have. It’s made a stunning difference but I want to do the mental work as well.
Beginning with your first sentence, changing old habits and dated beliefs, takes time. The time you spend on changing those things about you that never served you, will be the time that change for the better will happen. As much time as you spend on your academics doubling that must occur on your mental well-being. Your dedication to excellence begins in your head by not allowing old habits to interfere. I am sure you are more than aware of your past and the struggles and challenges you experienced. If that was a time in your life you elect to forget, replace it immediately. Until you can measure some degree of success with accomplishments, those old, dated, thoughts will cease to exist. Remember to revisit those techniques I taught you about navigating your thoughts by constantly determining where you are in the ‘now of your presence.’ These challenges will not ever go away because as traumatizing as they were the lesson was in your survival.
I cannot emphasize enough how important it is to stay in control. Remember those mistakes and decisions of past and never repeat them again. The only success you will have in making conscious decisions over repeating mistakes is by changing how you think and if you can do that, trust me, your behavior and outlook on life will follow. It never enough to just want something because by wanting, you must control everything about yourself. Your workouts will definitely help as that will empower your commitment to life and your future. However, a healthy body only occurs when your thoughts and habits are pure. We talked about your personality type a few months ago, and we determined that your biggest asset was that you were extremely analytical. Use that to your advantage by not failing yourself. Your everyday, unexpected challenges will always be there, but the way you respond can make the difference. Your feelings of hopelessness is an emotion but you control that as well. The more you allow your mind to rest on that notion, the hopelessness in your life will remain. Put in the time by developing a ‘sound’ mental platform that will not let you down.
So, know for sure, change is never easy so determine for yourself that change for the better is well worth the effort! For the new year stay in your head. Bring out my book, ‘Simply Common Cents,’ and dig into the mental mechanics it offers.
Remember, what you’re not changing, you’re choosing!